Four Steps To Help Your Wife Through Postpartum Depression


Dealing with postpartum depression is not easy. A woman with postpartum depression may feel hopeless and not know how to deal with it.

A husband whose wife is dealing with this depression can also find himself in a difficult situation.

As a husband, you may notice your wife is not acting like she normally would. Learn to tell the symptoms and determine whether or not it’s just the baby blues or more than that. These are four steps you can take to find out what’s wrong with your wife and help both her and yourself.

1. Learn the symptoms of postpartum depression

The baby blues is a normal feeling many new mothers go through after giving birth. However, postpartum depression can occur any time in the first year after a baby is born. Common symptoms include: fatigue, feelings of hopelessness, lack of energy, guilt, deep sadness, and thoughts of suicide or of running away.

2. Tell your wife about your concerns

If you think your wife is suffering from postpartum symptoms, the next thing to do is talk to her gently about your concerns. Sit down with her to tell her about the behaviors you have seen and how you are concerned about her well-being. Make sure to encourage her to tell you how she is feeling. Tell her these symptoms and feelings are very common and fully treatable.

3. Work with her right away to get professional help

Encourage your wife to seek professional help for her symptoms. There are many resources out there to help women with postpartum depression, including therapy, medical treatment and support groups for new mothers. Women who may be suffering from postpartum symptoms should consult with a medical professional first before seeking medication treatments.

Some women may be reluctant or hesitant to seek help for different reasons. Assist her in seeking the different options available for her. It can seem difficult to put a new mother’s own well-being on the forefront while caring for a new baby. Do all you can to support her recovery by letting her know you are there and by helping with the baby or around the house.

Studies show the sooner women with postpartum depression are treated, the less negative effect the illness will have on their family.

4. Support her treatment plan

There are different options of depression treatment out there for different people. Some women may feel more comfortable with certain treatment plans depending on their needs. Help your wife learn the risks and benefits of each type of treatment so she can choose the one she feels is right for her.

Remember to offer your support and not make judgments about which treatment is chosen. When one treatment does not work, encourage her to not give up and remind her that there are other options available.



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