How to Beat Feeling Lonely or Depressed

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Everyone feels down now and then. Things happen in our lives that are out of our control, and this can make us feel helpless and alone. The most important thing to remember when this happens is that it will get better. Time, as the saying goes, heals all wounds, and there are very few things that we face that will not get better with time. There are certain steps you can take to beat feeling lonely or depressed, though, including the following suggestions:

Count Your Blessings

Take a moment to think of all the things you are grateful for in your life. Make a list. Pick four or five items on the list every morning and spend a few minutes meditating on them. Gratitude is a great way to help yourself feel better because it shows you how much you really have in your life, and gets you to focus on all the good things you have going for you every day.

Find a list of positive affirmations you can repeat to yourself when you start to feel down, or make your own. These can be as simple as "Every day, in every way, I'm getting better and better." Again, the benefit of these is that they get you focusing on how much you've grown and are continuing to grow as an individual.

Get Moving

Studies show time and time again that exercise is one of the most powerful healing methods known to man. If you're in a funk and can't seem to snap out of it, go for a walk. Take up a sport. Resolve to spend a bit more of each day being healthier.

For a more low-impact effect, just do things that make you happy. Read funny books or watch funny videos. Just laugh for no reason. Take active control of your mood and acknowledge that you do how the power to be happy.

Take Care of Yourself

Feelings of loneliness and depression are often accompanied by feelings of guilt. "Who am I," we think, "to feel bad when others have it so much worse than I do?" Let this kind of thinking go. It's important not to beat up on yourself. Instead, take some time to care for yourself. In addition to exercise, take a look at your diet and see of there are any changes you could make. Make sure you're getting plenty of sleep. For a really dramatic effect, take a day and go to a spa. There's nothing like a massage or a turkish bath to take your mind off lonely feelings.

Get Help

If the sadness just will not go away, even after a couple of weeks, it may be the result of a more serious mental health condition, like major depression. This is a chemical imbalance in the brain, and should be treated by a psychiatric professional. If you suspect your feelings are more than just sadness, you should find help immediately. A quick search of the Internet, a phone book, or a chat with your primary physician should yield a number of mental health resources for you to contact.


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