Object Sexuality - When Love For Your Car Crosses The Line


You have no doubt heard someone going on and on about how much they love their new car, their new home, their new computer or, even more common it seems, how perfect their new phone is. While we may all admire, appreciate and even develop a sense of fondness for an inanimate object there are some people that have feelings that for these objects that they describe as love.

This type of love is recognized in research as object sexuality. However, this is a bit misleading as the individuals that feel the connection to the object do not necessarily see the object in a sexual way but in a loving, attached and emotional way. Individuals that show this type of love often seen relationships with humans as abnormal or outside of their comfort zone. They may also believe very strongly that the object is able to reciprocate feelings and that the desire to be together is mutually shared between the individual and the object.

These individuals feel a very strong attachment to an object that is typically described as very similar to those "love at first sight" feelings that most of us have encountered. Often the feelings are sustained and grow for years and years, resulting in situations where individuals marry an object or notify friends and family members that they are in a committed relationship.

Unlike some types of love addiction it is unclear why some people develop these feelings for inanimate objects. Leading researchers in the field report that childhood abuse and trauma is not typical as background issues in these adult's lives.

It is important if you have a friend or family member that does express these types of feelings towards inanimate objects that you try to be supportive maintain your relationship.

Key points to consider include:

1. Avoid joking or negative comments about the perceived relationship.

2. Encourage the individual to speak to a professional counselor and to seek information about relationships.

3. Continue to love the individual and support them to continue to build on interpersonal relationships that are non-judgmental.

Do you think you're a love addict? Find out with Sherry Gaba's free quiz here.


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