“Your self-harm is pathetic…”

Okay, so not what I was planning my next blog to be about, but I think this is something that would help a few minority know, that any type of self inflicted injury, is self-harm, and does show much much pain one is in.

I’ve had a few people come to me and go ”Your cuts are pathetic, they’re not deep, they’re cat scratches”. How do they know that I haven’t hid the others? Just because my ones on my arms aren’t as severe as the ones I hide, or the ones further up my arm, doesn’t mean at any way they’re ‘pathetic’. I learnt something whilst helping to develop a self-harm guidance, and that was: ”the extent to which you harm in doesn’t define the amount of pain you’re in”.

To physically be able to harm yourself, just shows how much pain someone is in, even if they’re superficial. I thought when someone said that mine are pathetic, ”you have a psychology degree, and you’ve self-harmed yourself, surely you should understand?” Clearly not.

It’s kind of a trigger when people compare there self-harm to yours. Or make you feel like you’re pathetic so you have to do it more severe etc. But that’s the point, right there, in that sentence. Comparing yourself to others is silly. YOU are still in as much pain as them to be harming yourself, and YOUR harm is still as important as their’s. By this I mean just because you harm differently, it doesn’t make you any less of a priority to get help, you deserve it just as much as anyone does.

Cutting isn’t the only type of self-harm out there. There’s also, hair pulling, burning, bruising yourself, and even eating disorders come into the self harming category.

I want you all to have a look at the self-harm guidance, I’ll link it, but also add it to the  ’videos’ category.

You’re all worth it, and each one of you are beautiful. It will get easier and no matter how you self-harm, you’re just as important as another who self-harms.


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