A Show of LOVE


Today is Valentine’s Day. Now, you might be expecting a depressed girl to absolutely loathe Valentine’s Day (aka “VD”), but in my case, you’d be absolutely wrong. First off, I have a wonderful, supportive, loving boyfriend who has been there for me through thick and thin and I definitely do not feel alone today. Secondly, Valentine’s Day is not just about exchanging cheesy cards with a romantic partner. It is about sharing and showing love to all of those you are grateful for…including yourself.

Valentine’s Day gets more flack than any other holiday. People love to hate on it because they’re single, because it’s a “Hallmark Holiday” or just because people love to hate. Instead of loving to hate, we need to learn how to love loving. The chocolates and roses are just a byproduct of a day dedicated to showing affection to our loved ones, and you know what? There’s nothing wrong with that!

I spent all of about $16 on my boyfriend this year, and I was able to bake him cupcakes, give him a gift, make him a chocolate martini for when he got off work and have a bed full of rose petals waiting for him ;) ;) . It’s about the thought and the effort, not about how much money you spend at the Hallmark store. I also called my mom this morning to wish her a Happy Valentine’s Day. All it took was a phone call. I just wanted to tell her that I love her.

Showing love to others also helps me feel better about myself, which leads to loving myself more, which is a great reliever of depressive symptoms. It’s a win-win situation no matter how you look at it. Now, you may argue that we shouldn’t need a special day to tell us to love each other, and to that I would say you are absolutely right. But most of us tend to get wrapped up in our daily lives and neglect to show enough appreciation for each other on a regular basis, so what’s the harm in having one day a year to remind us of how lucky we are to love and be loved?

Whether you love your boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife, mom, dad, brother, sister, son, daughter, friend, dog, cat, rabbit or even just yourself, today is the day to spread the feeling. Write someone a letter, pick up the phone or just take a bath and enjoy your own company. There is no good reason to be depressed about a day that encourages love of any kind.

Happy Valentine’s Day.

Yours Truly



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