Falling Out of Love

Love is universal, or at least it seems to be. 

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Falling Out of Love

Do humans have a biological mechanism for ending romantic relationships? Post published by Romeo Vitelli Ph.D. on Mar 09, 2015 in Media Spotlight

Love is universal, or at least it seems to be. 

Every society has a romantic tradition and the desire to form a long and (hopefully) lasting love with another human being is apparently an intrinsic part of being human.  While monogamy seems to be the ideal for most people,  attaining that ideal is easier said than done. Like it or not, humans aren't likely to stay with one romantic partner for their entire lives.  No matter how a society chooses to define marriage, roughly half of all these marriages end in divorce these days. 

And this is hardly unique to modern society.   According to David Buss, (link is external) hunter-gather societies seem particularly prone to divorce.  For example, members of the Ache society of Paraguay can report as many as eleven marriages by the time they reach adulthood (link is external).  For whatever reason, most romantic relationships are going to come to an end, whether harmoniously or not.  

Though we recognize that love is often fragile, it can be difficult to understand exactly why a romantic relationship has come to an end.  For most people, this can often be a traumatic experience, especially for the one who is caught unaware that a relationship is over. The shock and anger that can result from a bad breakup can take years to work through and learning to move on can be extremely difficult.

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