How can we love ourselves?

Society is spoiled with people destined to be ‘perfect’.

But what is perfect?

It’s an image that can NEVER be achieved. There is no such thing, you will always find something else to pick at .

You ARE perfect the way you are. Your flaws make YOU flawless.


Never feel like you should have to change for anyone, ever. You should feel comfortable in yourself, not because other people dislike you. It doesn’t matter if you’re spotty, chubby, thin, tall or short. You are YOUnique.

We will always continue to compare ourselves to others, wishing we could have their figure, height, complexion. But we need to learn to love ourselves.

How can we love ourselves? Or even learn to love ourselves?

Loving yourself is mainly having self-respect, which is the only dependable way to create love in your own life to share with others.

  • Treat others with love and respect. Bringing joy to other people’s lives will help you find joy in your own.
  • Express yourself, perhaps in a diary, or through short stories. You may need to get feelings out, but not on your friends!
  • Forgive yourself. Don’t punish yourself for something you have done in the past. Instead, look at the mistake as a learning experience.
  • Put positive statements up some places where you will see them each and every day. “I am beautiful.” or “I have the courage to love.” Write notes that remind you of what you love most about yourself.
  • Be persistent. Work as steadily as you can at loving and accepting yourself just as you are right now.
  • Hug Yourself. Show yourself love through a hug by hugging the real you.
  • Be who you really are. Express yourself, laugh, play, or sing. Be crazy. Don’t be afraid of what others think.
  • Nurture yourself. Self care is very important. Set up some time to be by yourself, just by yourself. Do something that gives you peace, love, and joy with yourself.
  • Stop comparing yourself to others. Everyone on this earth is unique. We all have different gifts. When you compare yourself to others, it makes you feel bad about yourself.

And a special tip:

Remind yourself that you are worth loving. Many people tend to get insecure about themselves, when in all reality we are all human beings! Always believe in yourself, and be the confident, optimistic you.


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