Meandering Michele’s Mind: Why are we so suspicious?

trust-resclassic2Okay, so forget the question in the title because of course, I know why PTSD survivors are suspicious. We’ve all been tricked, abused and misused by fate, friends, family members or strangers. So really what’s meandering my mind today is how we begin to trust again.

I know for myself that after years of isolation, frustration, fear and disappointment it was and has been a process for me to unwind enough to let people in, believe in their intentions and not skip to the worst conclusions. I have had to learn to remain present in every situation. I have had to build the habit of asking myself what I know about the people involved, and reminding myself of who they are, what I know about them, what I have experienced of them before. I have had to remind myself to do research rather than run with my first thoughts.

I have learned to give myself a little reality check to decide whether or not my assumptions and conclusions are based on fact, fear or fiction. I have had to engage in and develop systems for building back my ability to believe in anyone.

So, it’s not that I don’t get the whole trust thing. I understand how our histories make us distrustful. I’m wondering though, how our own consciousness around this idea might help us evolve a little faster. I’m wondering how all of you:

  • learn to trust again
  • determine who you can trust
  • stop the trust trigger long enough to figure out whether or not distrust should rule the day

I know you have great thoughts on this. I hope you’ll share.

(Photo acknowledgement on Flickr.)

 
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