My Trauma Recovery Tragedy

If you’ve read my PTSD recovery memoir, BEFORE THE WORLD INTRUDED, then you know what a disaster my recovery process was. I tried sooo many healing modalities and techniques — and none of them worked! I would get a little bit better, or maybe slide into a whole lot worse. No matter what I did it seemed I couldn’t get it right. Was the problem me or my practitioner?

The true answer: Both.

First, the problem was that I just flat out didn’t want to do the work to heal. I was afraid, coping and full of anxiety already. What the hell would I do if healing brought on even more of all that??

Second, the problem was that for a long time I was with a therapist I really liked but who didn’t really know much about trauma recovery and didn’t know squat about PTSD.

This was the tragedy of my recovery: I spent eight years in talk therapy with a therapist I really liked but who didn’t know the first thing about helping me truly, deeply, lastingly heal. What to do? I was in a bit of a picklish meltdown when I decided to chuck it all and start over. I cut ties with my therapist and decided to take my recovery by the reigns and find someone who I could turn myself over to with a feeling of safety, assurance and knowledge. I decided, for the first time, to do some research, advocate for myself, and interview practitioners until I felt I’d found the right person to get me where I wanted to go.

I ended up with a woman who did, in fact, help me achieve my recovery goals. Along the way, I learned some things about how to identify who fits the bill for the guidance we seek, but my process was a hodge-podge of undirected interviews. Can’t the process be more organized? In fact, it can, which is why CEO, Noah Rubinstein, guest posted about how to identify the most important qualities to look for in a therapist, and why he’s going to join me today at 2pm EST/11am PST on YOUR LIFE AFTER TRAUMA to discuss:

  • Noah’s own personal story of trauma recovery and what he learned along the way that made him found
  • how to find a good therapist
  • what are the most important qualities to look for in a therapist
  • how to interview a therapist
  • how to assess your therapeutic connection and know you’re working with the right person
  • what to do when you feel you’re working with the wrong person

Click here for more details about the show.

You can call in to win our PROJECT GIVE BACK giveaway, which is a free copy of Kelley Harrell’s book GIFT OF THE DREAMTIME, which investigates the psychological trauma and emotional roadblocks that Harrell traces back to her childhood and past lifetimes. In a remarkable book that explores her own past as an incest survivor, her bouts with depression, and crippling inability to pursue her dreams, the author uses shamanic practices rooted in Native American, Celtic, and Aboriginal culture. She combines her personal journey with instructions for similar meditations to help the injured child in all of us look at the hurt, understand it in a spiritual context, and forgive both ourselves and others. One lucky caller will win by dialing: 877.230.3062.


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Timberline Knolls, a private residential treatment center for adolescent girls and women (ages 12 – 65+), offers hope, healing and recovery to women seeking treatment for eating disorders, trauma, PTSD, mood disorders, addiction, and co-occurring disorders. Highly trained professionals provide individualized clinical care in a spiritually nurturing, trauma aware treatment environment. Our picturesque 43-acre wooded campus is located in suburban Chicago.  For more information on Timberline Knolls Residential Treatment Center, call us at 877.257.9611. We are also onFacebook – Timberline Knolls, LinkedIn – Timberline Knolls, and recently launchedthe Timberline Knolls Treatment Blog.


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