PTSD Recovery Tip: Get Curious and Engage in Your Recovery

I have a friend who has been trying to convince her sister to enter PTSD therapy for about the past decade. Her sister simply won’t. I get that. It took me over 2 decades to accept the responsibility of healing and then focus on getting the work done.

In the Heal My PTSD Support Groups today (we’re launching a new support group next week, want to join us?) the talk often turned to being ready to heal, and all the reasons why we are so often afraid to. They are, actually, really good reasons to want to hold on to the PTSD lifestyle. All of those coping techniques put in place ways for you to feel safe and in control. It’s very scary to let go of those things – unless you have a process that puts in place more healthy ways to feel safe and in control, which means you’re not really losing anything but gaining a lot of peace, calm, happiness and resolution.

Sure, it’s easy to write about that now, looking back, when I’m 100% PTSD-free. But I remember how terrified I was to let go of my coping mechanisms, or face my fears, or do the work, etc. Even while I wanted to feel better I procrastinated because my fear of getting better was greater than my desire to get better. Until one day it wasn’t.

I see this pattern happen over and over in the survivors I meet and work with: We all want to feel better but it’s so scary to:

  • imagine it’s ok to be ok
  • give ourselves permission to heal
  • believe we are worth it
  • imagine a future that is good and whole
  • let go of the past

With all of those fears it’s reasonable to sit back and say, “I’m not going there!”

But if you don’t, who will? If you don’t, how will your life continue? How will you ever get better?

It’s up to each of us to take a deep breath and dive into the process of recovery.

James Stevens said,

Curiosity will conquer fear even more than bravery will.

Aren’t you a little bit curious about your recovery process? The best way to discover it is to engage in it — and move slowly.



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