PTSD Recovery Tip: Make a Choice

One of the biggest things that held back my PTSD recovery (as in, made PTSD hang around for years and years and years) was that I never made any choices in my life. I accepted whatever happened. I accepted jobs, friends and relationships that came and went with a feeling of utter resignation. I, um, even accepted PTSD as a lifelong sentence.

I never thought about what I actually wanted and instead lived by one creed:

React to whatever happens.

Know what’s wrong with this idea? Nothing ever happens that’s really in alignment with who you are, want to be or the life you want to live.

It makes sense, though, that after trauma we sort of curl up in a ball of safety and allow ourselves to be kicked around. My recovery, however, changed enormously when I began making choices about what I wanted. For example, I decided I wanted to feel better. I wanted a job that was less draining. I wanted to live in a place more conducive to recovery. I wanted to engage in the process of healing instead of just waiting for it to happen.

Wow, when I began making choices that were good and right for me suddenly things started falling into place. Eventually, I did achieve 100% freedom from PTSD symptoms, so all that hard work of making choices paid off.

This process happens for many people. I see this happen for survivors all the time. They start engaging in life by making simple choices (one of my clients began just by becoming clear on how to make a choice for what to have for lunch) and then the choices start to build in interesting ways that bring in more safety and control than all the negative PTSD coping habits could ever put into place.

If you were going to take back one more iota of real control by making a simple choice today, what would it be?

BIG NEWS — 1 Week Left!

When my PTSD recovery memoir was released last week we also launched PROJECT GIVE BACK:

FREE with your copy of the book you will receive over $1,900 in PTSD support resources.

How cool is that? I asked my colleagues to do something really special for you and they came through for me in a HUGE way. Check out all the details here.

While PROJECT GIVE BACK will continue, this blowout launch offer will end on May 31st.


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