Self-Harm Relapses

Most of us that experience self-harm, know that with recovery comes relapses. This can make us feel like a failure and that we can’t do somethong “simple”.

But stop beating yourself up about it. We all slip, but each time you do, you become stronger and stronger. When/if you do relapse, take a big breath, note down what you think could have been the trigger, grab yourself a brew and relax. It’s not the end of the world of you relaspe.

Overthinking why you relapsed could make you feeling ten times worst with the situation. Instead think “today I slipped, tomorrow is another day where I can start again at recovering”. Telling yourself this is a positive step in letting yourself know that we all slip up, and that it isn’t a easy journey.

I’ve relapsed before, more on one occassion, I’ve figured out as soon as everything gets too much and I don’t talk about it, or phone my CPN, I’ll end up going back to old habits. Learning that I can start again and it doesn’t define me if I relapse is often a step higher on the ladder. Also writing things down and writing “letters” that I’ll never send to someone that means a lot to me often helps.

If the relapses are occuring more that often, maybe placing positive coping distractions in place would help to reduce this. There’s a section on distractions on my blog. (Sorry I can’t link, will do asap!)

So, a summary of everything, and I know this isn’t very informative, but its hard on a phone! I’ll elaborate more on this topic when I have my laptop back.

1) don’t beat yourself up over relapses 2) tomorrow is a new day, you can start again 3) distractions may be more useful if you find something triggers you 4) helplines/chats can also be a huge boost in feeling you can cope


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