There’s A Fine Line: A True Story

Guest Post by Teresa Joyce

It is my privilege to be asked to write a piece for this blog. My aim whilst writing my book was to do just that, to be able to make a difference. Through the writing of my book, I have found the strength to come back from a very dark place. My greatest wish would be to impart that message to others. We can all achieve that. There is a place deep inside of us all that remains untapped, unless you reach your lowest point, and allow the soul within you to take hold.

Today my outlook on life is so very different, instead of the glass being half empty, the glass is half full. I have been asked many times as to my motivation for writing this book. The answer is twofold. I had to find a way to deal with my own demons, which even after all these years, seemed so reluctant to leave. Secondly and I believe just as important was to reach out to others. It’s easy to think that you are alone in your pain I know I did. You convince yourself, that you’re the only person in the world this could ever have happened to. That in some manner you’re a bad person, only receiving what you are due.

My dearest hope is that this book goes some way to dispelling that misconception. I also hope that in sharing my story and a chapter of my life, people with similar experiences may find some peace within its pages and courage to heal. I would like to think that my book somehow imparts to others, the hope it gave me on its conclusion. I still struggle to find some kind of insight as how to heal the child within me. But it’s long past time that I did so she has suffered enough.

It has taken many years of my life to realise that maybe I was not to blame for everything going on around me at that time, that feeling to be honest never really goes away. I could say that I am now at easy with my involvement, but that would be untrue. So where do you go from there? Forgiveness has to be the answer. Firstly you need to try and forgive yourself, to heal the child that’s inside of us all. The other side of the coin is so much harder, you have to try and make headway in forgiving your abuser. Holding on to all that pain is only creating a mountain of hate which has no real purpose, by holding on to that pain your abuser is still very much in control. I am not in the least saying this will be easy, how could I when I am still struggling to do just that myself. But we have to believe that it’s possible.

So was writing my book therapeutic? The answer to that is a firm, yes. The day I sat down to write I had never been so scared in my life could I really do this? Could I revisit that dark place and come out of it the other end? It was a long hard journey but one I knew I had to take. Sitting here now I know that it has helped me enormously.  Let today be the first day of the rest of your life. There is no point in looking back you can’t change the past, but you can make a bright future for yourself you just have to believe you are stronger then you think…….

www.teresajoyce.com

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