You Can’t Please All the People All the Time

I have certainly questioned my actions numerous times since starting this blog. First of all, despite the heaps of support I have received since I started writing about my struggle with depression, I have received a fair bit of negative backlash as well, almost entirely from people who have, in some way, been involved with past events that have contributed to my mental issues. I understand that some people feel hurt by my choice to make my story public. I had no illusions that there wouldn’t be at least a handful of people who were offended. But I also had to be true to myself and share my story in complete honesty. At the end of the day, I am learning that being true to yourself must always come first and foremost because, for the most part, everybody in this world is worried about themselves, not you, so you need to do what’s right for you because you can’t count on others to do it for you. That being said, I have still beat myself up at times for sharing my story, for “outing” others and myself, and for even starting this blog in the first place. Despite the fact that we live in an age of social media where everybody’s business is public all the time, I do understand that we only want to put our best face forward and we would prefer that “the dirt” be swept under the rug. I don’t believe in this. I believe that we need more honesty in this world no matter what the truth is, and so that’s why I decided to follow my moral compass and lay everything on the table in this blog.

After I graduated from university with a journalism degree, I decided I didn’t want to be a writer anymore, not because I no longer enjoyed it, but because I was worried about the negative backlash I would get from people who disagreed with what I was writing. Clearly, it was a valid concern. But I have learned that you’re never going to make everybody happy, and your life’s talent, passion and gift should not suffer for that. I am sure I will get myself into loads more trouble in the future, but I will no longer let that stifle me.

Receiving negative backlash does hurt. Behind my seemingly tough exterior, I am a very caring person who wants only the best for people, and it upsets me deeply when I have hurt someone, whether I know them or not. It makes me depressed. It ruins my day. But I am learning to pick myself up and keep on going because that’s what life is all about. All we can do is live and act the best way we know how and forgive ourselves for our mistakes, our pasts and our errors in judgment, as well as for just being ourselves whether people like it or not. My heart is heavy today, and I feel grey and gloomy like the sky. In the past, I might have spiralled into a bout of depression on a day like this, but not this time. What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger, and I’m still here, ready to live and, if necessary, fight another day. To all my supporters and my adversaries, I appreciate all the lessons you continue to teach me everyday. Love to you all.

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