Overcoming The Victim Mentality


Article written for PsyWeb.com by Sherry Gaba, LCSW

People can become victims of a situation, relationship or life event for a variety of reasons. Some of those reasons are out of our control and can be very traumatic, devastating and emotionally draining.

Staying a victim after the situation is over is also common. Some people become chronic victims, never taking any responsibility for their lives and seeming to always be waiting for someone to help them out, make excuses for them or fix the problem at hand.

A victim mentality can become chronic and fill a person with negative thoughts, negative energy and a feeling of very real hopelessness and helplessness.

Signs that you may have a victim mentality include:

  • Not accepting any challenges in your life because you know that you will fail or that someone else will sabotage or ruin your chances.
  • Never taking person responsibility for your actions (whether they are positive or negative) but, rather, allowing others to take responsibility for you.
  • Blaming everyone for anything bad that happens in your life.

Changing from a victim mentality to that of a positive, successful and self-reliant person is not as difficult as it may appear. Working with a therapist, life coach or counselor is highly recommended, but you want to look for a professional that understands just how powerful positive thinking can be.

The Law of Attraction

The Law of Attraction is something that I use with my clients that allows them to develop a positive way to look at themselves and the world around them. As they see themselves as successful and self-reliant they find that the world around them supports their change and gives them the positive energy they need to keep changing. They find that those old negative victim thoughts are replaced by a person that accepts challenges and moves into the world in a positive and proactive way they have always wanted.

To learn more about psychotherapist, author and life coach Sherry Gaba, LCSW, please visit SherryGaba.com


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